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Post by princetongal on Jan 13, 2010 6:28:38 GMT -5
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Post by Dianne on Jan 13, 2010 7:47:37 GMT -5
What a great blurb Prince... Gerry is such a great guy. Karma for you!!!
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Post by Joy on Jan 13, 2010 8:20:18 GMT -5
What a great blurb Prince... Gerry is such a great guy. Karma for you!!! What a sweetie. If he follows me home can I keep him? |
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Post by sophiero on Jan 13, 2010 9:23:01 GMT -5
That's a very sweet story!
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Post by kyriem on Jan 13, 2010 16:24:23 GMT -5
That's very sweet of him... Mum Meg is very powerful.. 
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Post by sassenach on Jan 13, 2010 17:43:41 GMT -5
Wow...that connection with mama seems almost Mediterranean !
Such a sweet bond !
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Post by kyriem on Jan 13, 2010 20:35:35 GMT -5
You're right Sass!! He's nearly like an Italian mama boy... actually in Italy that is considered a fault and not a virtue...
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Post by princetongal on Jan 13, 2010 21:30:05 GMT -5
You're right Sass!! He's nearly like an Italian mama boy... actually in Italy that is considered a fault and not a virtue... Really? Thats sad! In my book loving your Mom or parents as Gerry does is one of the most sincere and endearing qualities of a human being. I cannot see one negative from that love/relationship other than if it was a relationship where one side controlled the other and exploited that love. In this case, it seems as natural and genuine as can be  |
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Post by sassenach on Jan 14, 2010 3:30:29 GMT -5
I hear you both Kyriem and Prince....!
Actually, what happens in Mediterranean countries Prince - mostly in Italy and Greece - is that usually boys even after they're of age are TOO much depended on their mums. For mothers their son(s) are like princes and noone can love them the way they do - in other words, they tend to spoil their sons way too much. Sometimes the thing goes as far as prevending the young men in be really independent - i believe that's what Kyriem means and i'm 100% with her.
Now, as to Gerry case, i believe although he has a wonderful and strong bound with his mother he's as independent as it gets. I mean he lives in another continent, for Heaven's sake, he doesn't travel home so often, hence the rare times he visits home they treat each other really fondly and that's great to me !
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Post by Joy on Jan 14, 2010 12:39:05 GMT -5
I think a man's connection to his mother is very much like he will treat his wwoman in a committed relationship. My husband was very close to his mother yet she didn't spoil him. He is very much a sweet heart to me. But then again ontop of a good relationsip with his mother he also had a father that was very much a care taker. Very active in his childrrens upbringing.
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Post by sassenach on Jan 14, 2010 15:37:28 GMT -5
Sweet ladies of US, if you haven't met a Mediterranean man you don't know about a man been spoiled by his mother ! We talk about clinical cases - ALL OF THEM !
Now, Gerry is a whole different case....
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Post by kyriem on Jan 14, 2010 23:14:33 GMT -5
 I hear you both Kyriem and Prince....! Actually, what happens in Mediterranean countries Prince - mostly in Italy and Greece - is that usually boys even after they're of age are TOO much depended on their mums. For mothers their son(s) are like princes and noone can love them the way they do - in other words, they tend to spoil their sons way too much. Sometimes the thing goes as far as prevending the young men in be really independent - i believe that's what Kyriem means and i'm 100% with her. Now, as to Gerry case, i believe although he has a wonderful and strong bound with his mother he's as independent as it gets. I mean he lives in another continent, for Heaven's sake, he doesn't travel home so often, hence the rare times he visits home they treat each other really fondly and that's great to me !
Prince, if you've never lived for some time in one of our countries, you can't understand... I really mean it. And what's Gerry feels for his Mum is probably miles away from what's the situation in our countries.
In Italy men are prevented from having their families because they rely only on their mothers all the time, in Italian we even have a word to describe them, "mammoni".
Unfortunately, they're so spoiled that very often they reject the mere idea of having a family on their own because... they never got used to responsibilities and indipendence and they don't feel to change their status at all. I had two engagements in my life, the first guy didn't feel to live together with me because "Mom" could be angry at him (she deemed him too young to leave the parental nest... he was 24!); the second one... wow, we bought even the house but he told me before going to live together that his widowed mom still needed him too much and he could sleep in our house only in the weekends (our house was 25 km. far from his mother's house...likely an ocean, right??). For the record, he was 51 at that time.
I could tell you dozens of similar cases concerning my friends, of course...
I even see it happening in my family... My mother was fine with the fact of having me coming to New Zealand (20000 km. from home) but she couldn't stand to lose my brother that way... I don't know how many times I told my mother that she was spoiling him too much (and ruining his chances for a future life with possibly a wife), but... my sentences always fell on deaf ears!!
Well... I went off topic a lot, sorry Dianne!!
By the way... does anyone know if Comrie is in the Perthshire?? I'll explain you later why I asked...
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Post by sassenach on Jan 15, 2010 3:18:23 GMT -5
Same here, unfortunately !  I thought my ex- boyfriend was the definition of "mamakias"(Greek equivalent to "mamone" Mother spoiled son) , yet Kyriem your latest, bits them all ! The asshole i splitted up with last summer was 45, STILL STAYING WITH HIS PARENTS, FOR GOD'S SAKE and his mother was controlling his whole life.  Oh, and there's another thing - for Greek mothers, their son is always " the kid" - daughters are a whole different case !  |
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Post by Joy on Jan 15, 2010 11:23:58 GMT -5
Comrie is in Perthshire
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Post by Leppardlady on Jan 15, 2010 23:00:16 GMT -5
Sass and Kyriem, I call those men mama's boys, still attached by their mother's apron strings and only let go when they find a woman like dear ole mom. My sister's ex-boyfriend was like this and finally found a woman (a real piece of work too, she definitely wears the pants in that family. She's also a real biatch towards my niece, making Cinderella's stepmother look like Mother Teresa) to take care of him.
In this vein, I do not consider Gerry to be a mama's boy. He is just a wonderful man who has great affection, admiration and respect for his mother. He doesn't depend on his mother for his needs like these mama's boy losers do. Gerry is the type of man I could fall for for the reasons Joy (and Di) has mentioned repeatedly.
As for mama's boys? Forget it! They can run back to mommy and hide under her skirts.
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